Curran Events will do just that , tell you about daily events in the life of a writer, artist, daughter, sister,single mother of four, and grandmother of three PLUS tips on managing a chronic illness or cancer , my happy and sad thoughts ,some promos on things I find interesting and more...
94 year old Marge showed up in the dining room without her choppers this morning. She went from table to table looking at each of us ,not in the eye, but in the mouth, to ask, " Have you seen my teeth?"
No one had.
"It's against the rules to leave your dentures in a glass on the table," said Baron.
"If you did that, the wait staff probably tossed them out."
" But, I didn't leave my teeth in here," Marge said. " I think someone has stolen them."
" Check the lost and found box at the concierge's desk, " Larry suggested.
When Marge had left the room , Betsy said, " she's getting a lot of short term memory loss. Her kids want her to move to assisted living, but she is refusing."
" Why?" I asked, " the expense or that fear of it being God's waiting room?"
" Neither," Betsy said. " You can't have booze in your room at assisted living, so that's why she won't move."
"Oh," I said ,nodding with the knowledge that Marge liked a bit of Scotch in the eight glasses of water she faithfully drank each day.
Drinking among the seniors is a problem at Active Senior Living, but that's another story for another day.
After baked loin of cod as our menu choice last night ... and who ever knew cod had loins, I expected tonight's choice to be roasted leg of Rainbow Trout. Our chef is very creative and not always in a good way. His seasoning of choice is always jalapeno and gravy is on everything. Same gravy, no matter was the entree is. I've gotten used to eating cold mashed potatoes, over cooked beef and chicken that is less than tender but the good news is I haven't lost any weight. Maybe that is because I do the feeding tube for breakfast and most days for lunch , too, and that gives me some good calories.
When we are served a meal that is less than desirable I am reminded of what my friend Ed told me ( and I put in the book Active Senior Living) and that was that he figured the food budget per resident was about $7 a day. " it's like Boy Scout camp," he had said, " only here we have indoor plumbing."
I've talked to residents at other active senior complexes and it is the same story everywhere.. not just here and not just in California. The food tends to be the least most attractive thing about the place. But , as my friend Betsy says, " we didn't have to go get the groceries, cook the meal, clear the table or do the dishes. They can cook it any way they want and it's fine with me!"
Moving on to other things.. had two doctor appointments this week. The first was with a dermatologist cus I had/have a spot on my bridge of my nose that was rough skin that would not smooth out no matter how many creams I put on it. I tried the cheap drug store stuff, I tried Chanel.. nothing did the trick. He burned off the spot so now it is all red and blistering but doesn't hurt anything other than my vanity. And it was not cancer. Whew.
My other appointment was with my oncolgoist ,my regular monthly appointment, get the blood checked, listen to my lungs, talk to me about how I am feeling. I am not in any pain, my weight is staying stable, it's been a year since the tumor in my liver was found and so far , so good... I'm still here and we take it one day at a time knowing full well that there is not treatment options for me any more. I have tried every chemo there is and there are none left for me to try that would hit this cancer, so I do take it one day at a time and am having fun with the Active Senior Living book and reading the terrific comments that readers are leaving on Amazon.com for the kindle. The print edition is still not on Amazon, you have to order it from lulu.com... but it should be up on Amazon in a few weeks. For the fun of it, go type my name into Amazon search and the book comes up and then click on the 14 reviews and read what readers are saying. it's fun. So is reading the comments on the discussion page about the book. People are asking for a sequel so I am starting to make a lot of notes and will start writing soon.
The author luncheon last week? I loved it. Son Lee was the star if you ask me. He had the audience howling with laughter and if writing doesn't always work out for him he could always be a stand up comic... he's that funny.
Lisa See was also a speaker and very good. I'm following her on twitter while she is on her book tour for 'Shanghi Girls" so her tweets are so very interesting. She's a really nice gal, knows both of my sons and thinks Tod is one hell of a writer... and that I have a very talented family. She put that on Twitter, too... Nice to read that. She wrote about how funny Lee was ,too.
I think someone ought to haul Gloria Allred off to a lockup .. imagine wanting an apology from Tiger for her porno star client when the apology should come from the porno gal to Tiger's wife.
I'm haing trouble getting this typepad to follow my keystrokes.. it is running about three spaces behind me all the time and then I have to back track and rewrite and it is really stilting my prose here so going to log off and hope it reads well enough for you to at least get an idea of what is new here.
Happy to report that nothing hurts, nothing is infected, the rent has been paid, the housekeeper comes tomorrow, the visiting nurse arrives on Friday and sales of Active Senior Living continue to do well.
What's really neat are those reviews on the kindle page on Amazon. Who are these people? A bunch of lovely people is who they are, taking the time to leave great words of praise for the book. Rather thrilling. Even more thrilling since they are all strangers.
This just came in on the Active Senior Living blog... from another writer, someone I do know... Ann Shields who writes a blog for the Ventura Star and used to write a column for the LA Times and who I met at the Santa Barbara Writers Confab about 1977. Read on..
Great read, Jan. Kept me up at 5 a.m. two mornings in a row. You took us from frustrations at coping with new surroundings in a new town, smaller living space, geriatric central as your Inn-mates. But you did more than cope, you made it your own world, open to the challenges, accepting your situation with grace and humor. The people who shared this life with you were endearing, quirky, domatic and sweet. What a great place to be through the ups and downs of your cancer nemesis, with love and comfort from all these fellow Inn-mates who nurtured you. Cheers to the foursome who adopted you. The Special fondness for Ed. Seems that the Inn changed you and you managed to change the place. Serendipity in action. Wish my mom were alive so I could buy your book for her. She would have loved it. Your local pal, Ann
Well, thanks so much , Ann. Your words mean a lot to me. A pro giving good feedback is priceless.
Cousin Dave in Wisconsin who I often share book news with and who is a retired former p.r. and public affairs writer plus a journalist at newspapers in his past got his copy of the book and is enjoying it so much he is going to suggest it to the book club at his senior center where he is a volunteer. Thanks Dave!
The book isn't on Amazon or Barnes and Noble yet as a print buy ,only for the Kindle, so one has to go to Lulu. com to get it, but that's very simple to do.
Next Monday son Lee is one of the featured authors at the Assistance League of Ventura County annual authors event. Author speak, then one dines, then we all stand in line to get our books autographed. I know my table is front and center and I do get to sit with Lee so if my oxygen compressor holds on for over two hours it will be super duper. Really looking forward to this event.
The next book I plan to read is called, " The Help". It's gotten so many rave reviews. I'll order it from Amazon.com.
Anyone else ordering it or read it yet?
A woman here suggested the Inn provide transportation to the casino outside of Santa Barbara. Can see it all now.. a line up of seniors, with their walkers, staking out slots. What a hoot. Maybe the idea for me to write a sequel to Active Senior Living is not such a bad idea!